Bittersweet Mother’s Day

Hallmark doesn’t have cards for these moms.

Moms for whom Mother’s Day is more burden than sweet.

The obvious grievable stories are ones we know or can imagine…
Moms with children who have passed on
Moms with children with life-threatening illnesses
Moms with children in the criminal justice system

Regardless if these ‘children’ are adults, they’re still their children in their hearts.

But I’m thinking of moms who carry their stories so deep we don’t know to bring casseroles…
Moms with children with addictions
Moms with children with schizophrenia or other mental illnesses
Moms with children living in domestic abuse

And lesser known stories that can leave Mom feeling that Mother’s Day is something to be endured or slept through…
Moms whose children haven’t gained the wisdom of time to realize she did her best
Moms whose children who’ve been swayed to look at her through mud-colored glasses
Moms whose children who are some flavor of abusive

Mom, you deserve to be wished a Happy Mother’s Day.  You’ve done your best.  If you had anything else or different to offer, I know you would have done so.

And leave the ‘should have’ criticism untouched.  If you had known so, you would have done so.

Here’s to Hallmark acknowledging the large population of moms for whom Mother’s Day is a hurdle.

Mr. Donald Hall, CEO of Hallmark Cards, here are some ideas:
“Mom, no one could have done it better.”
“You did your best, Mom.  The rest is up to them.”
“If it wasn’t for you, Mom, their lives would be far less than it is.”
“Be proud of yourself, Mom.  You did all anyone could do.”
“Someday they’ll have one of their own, Mom, and then they’ll understand.”

Happy Mother’s Day to ALL moms!

 

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I’m baaack!

Motherhood can reorganize our goals, projects, and dreams in a instant and then not let go for a very long time.  That best describes the past year in my job as a mom.

It needed, no, demanded, my full attention, effort and everything I had.

Time to breathe, relax and take lots of naps!

And get back to blogging, speaking on the radio, and reaching more moms through the work of God’s Heart and Hands.

Welcome back into my world.  It’s good to back with yours!

Jane

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“Gimme Shelter” is Worth the Time and Money

3 Reasons to See Vanessa Hudgens, Rosario Dawson, James Earl Jones, & Brandan Fraser in “Gimme Shelter”:

Our teens and young adults would benefit from a story:
- of how every choice ripples forward for a looong time.
- of a person overcoming large obstacles without turning to violence.
- of one mother who can’t overcome her burdens, another who won’t give up the fight to do so, and yet another who turned her burdens into helping others.

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American Apparel Ads Too Explicit?

Diets, weight loss success stories, and photoshopped celebs are just part of what our growing girls see. So we moms can know the expectations they feel, here are some of the American Apparel ads they’ve seen.

PhotoPhotoPhoto(Tomorrow, we’ll pose the same question for Calvin Klein ads.)

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A Dad Honors His Wife

“If you want to create a statue for me for taking care of my daughters, create one for the moms who are doing the same damn thing every day for their kids without receiving a ‘Thank you’ or an ‘Ooooh’ or ‘Ahhhh.’”
http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/awesome-dad-styles-daughter-39-hair-breaks-internet-204400163.html

Photo: "If you want to create a statue for me for taking care of my daughters, create one for the moms who are doing the same damn thing every day for their kids without receiving a 'Thank you' or an 'Ooooh' or 'Ahhhh.'"<br />
 http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/awesome-dad-styles-daughter-39-hair-breaks-internet-204400163.html

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Photoshop Transforms Celebrities

A picture’s worth a 1,000 words, fellow moms, and we need to know the ‘Encyclopedia of Expectations’ on society’s bestselling list for our daughters…

“Watch Photoshop Transform Your Favority Celebrities Right Before Your Eyes” -
http://screen.yahoo.com/buzzfeed/watch-photoshop-transform-favorite-celebrities-225244482.html

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Mamas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Barbies

BarbieOn December 20, Yahoo Shine Senior Writer Sarah B. Weir had this picture with her blogpost “How Human Barbie Made Even More Headlines in 2013″.
Working as a mom, I’ve mentored young girls through the minefield of image and esteem, and this tongue-in-cheek rewrite of the famous country song “Mama Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Cowboys” says it all I think.

Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Barbies
Don’t let ‘em pick guitars and drive them old trucks
Don’t let ‘em obsess about their looks and being thin
 Make ‘em be doctors and lawyers and such
Make them see themselves as more than such
Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Barbies
They’ll never stay home and they’re always alone self-critical
Even with someone they love 

Cowboys Barbies ain’t easy to love and they’re harder to hold
And they’d rather give you a song than diamonds or gold 
And they’d rather you gave ‘em a ring with diamonds or gold 

Lonestar belt buckles and old faded Levis
Never belt buckles or old faded Levis
And each night begins a new day
And each day begins a new diet
If you don’t understand him and he don’t die young,
If you don’t understand her and she don’t die young,

He’ll prob’ly just ride away
She’ll prob’ly just shrink away

Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Barbies
Don’t let ‘em pick guitars and drive them old trucks
Don’t let ‘em obsess about their looks and being thin
Make ‘em be doctors and lawyers and such
Make them see themselves as more than such
Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Barbies
They’ll never stay home and they’re always alone self-critical
Even with someone they love

Cowboys like smoky old pool rooms, clear mountain mornings
Barbies like bleached blonde hair and make-up in the mirror
Little warm puppies and children, girls of the night 
So, so many surgeries that make her look good
And them that don’t know him won’t like him and them that do
And when she’s not perfect she can’t stand being in her skin
Sometimes won’t know how to take him
Most of us can’t make her happy
He ain’t wrong, he’s just different but his pride won’t let him
She ain’t wrong, she’s just different but our pride won’t let us
Do things to make you think he’s right
Accept each other how we are

Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Barbies
Don’t let ‘em pick guitars and drive them old trucks
Don’t let ‘em obsess about their looks and being thin
Make ‘em be doctors and lawyers and such
Make them see themselves as more than such
Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Barbies
They’ll never stay home and they’re always alone self-critical
Even with someone they love

Song: originally written by Ed & Patsy Bruce
Photo: Human Barbie with Barbie (Valeria Lukyanova/Facebook)

 

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Mom’s Calendar of Reality

NOVEMBER & DECEMBER: Women’s Olympics of TooMuchToDo
JANUARY: Magazine cover of bikini-clad 62 y.o. Jane Seymour
EVERYDAY: Helping girls navigate self-esteem pressures
Christmas
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Religion and Tolerance Begins With a Mom

The practice (or not) of religion and tolerance (or not) of others’
is possibly one of the most important issues
we handle in the job of motherhood.
Photo: The practice (or not) of religion and tolerance (or not) of others' is possibly one of the most important issues we handle in the job of motherhood.
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God Was Born Today, Part 2

God was born today.

Peace eluded us,
distractions plagued us,
and logic splintered us.

Becoming a man meant
we could talk, question,
and, most helpful,
record.

So God was born today.

Walking among us was for us, not God.

Walking among us in the garment of a person
allowed us to experience the most powerful love possible.

Bridging the chasm between
Earth and Heaven,
humanity and divinity,
human love and unconditional love
was worth
God becoming a baby.

 

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